During this difficult time, we offer resources for parents at home with their children during COVID-19.
Overindulgence is giving your child too much of anything — money, space, time, energy, or attention — that can delay their development. Parents and caregivers overindulge children from a “good heart,” but it doesn't help children or families in the long run. Learn about overindulgence and learn some practical and easy parenting tools that you can use.
Learn about the Test of Four tool, which helps you and the children in your care learn what is enough.
Check out this new, free online course designed to give you parenting tools you can use right away.
Take this free online course to help you learn how to identify if something is "too much" and get strategies to avoid overindulgence. NEW — Professionals can access free take & teach modules that coincide with this course to use with parents and caregivers!
The 44-page research based book, Good Heart Parenting: A Journey of Love and Strength, chronicles the experience of two families who highlight the need for both parental love and parental strength in order to deal with the ubiquitous cultural messages to overindulge.
The Developmental Parenting Highway class is one of several in the Parenting in the Age of Overindulgence series. Overindulgence comes from a good heart, but it can lead to unwanted, less-than-good outcomes.
A developmental affirmation is a positive message that you can give to another person, or yourself. The affirmation messages can give hope and direction by helping us care for others and ourselves. Developmental affirmations are especially helpful for people who are going through changes that lead to stress and uncertainty.
The developmental affirmations are ovals because the oval is a symbol of constantly renewing life and of hope. The sequence of colors reflects the rainbow, reminding us that moving through the developmental stages is a natural process.
- Stage 1 (peach) is “becoming” – prenatal
- Stage 2 (red) is “being” – birth to 6 months
- Stage 3 (orange) is “doing” – 6 to 18 months
- Stage 4 (yellow) is “thinking” – 18 months to 3 years
- Stage 5 (green) is “identity & power” – 3 to 6 years
- Stage 6 (light blue) is “structure” – 6 to 12 years
- Stage 7 (dark blue) is “identity, sexuality & separation” – 12 to 18 years
- Stage 8 (purples) are “interdependence” – adult years
- Stage 9 (white) is “integration” – end of life
You can use them in any way that works for you. You can offer them directly to give support to children and to yourself. Here are some ideas. Be creative!
- Say them or sing them
- Post them
- Make games with them
- Write down the one you choose each day
- Keep your daily chosen one close by as a reminder