The Test of Four helps parents and children learn about what is enough. It guides adults and children toward personal responsibility and self-control. It also encourages clear thinking and good decision-making.
How the Test of Four works
The Test of Four consists of asking questions in four key categories about a potential overindulgence situation. Use the test for one problem at a time. A "yes" response to questions in any of the four categories is a signal that overindulgence exists or might occur.
Developmental tasks
Will doing or giving this keep my child from learning what he or she needs to learn at this age? In other words, might this prevent my child from meeting a developmental goal—from completing a developmental "task?" Or might it harm the child in some other way?
Family resources
Will doing or giving this use a disproportionate amount of family resources, including money, space, time, energy or attention, to meet the wants (not the needs) of one or more of our children?
Whose needs?
Will doing or giving this benefit you, the parents, more than your child? Will doing or giving this insist that your child focus on activities you like but are counter to the child's interests and abilities?
Possible harm
Will doing or giving this deplete or otherwise harm others, the community or the environment in some way?
When to use the Test of Four
- Should my child get a treat or toy every time we go shopping?
- Is my child doing his or her share of household tasks?
- If I want my child to succeed, should I do my child's homework?
- Should I buy new shoes my child wants or a coat I need for myself?
Using the Test of Four with children and teens
The beauty of the Test of Four is that it helps families decide what is best for them. What looks like overindulgence in one family may not be overindulgence in another.
A guide for parents
There are times when parents need to be in charge and make decisions for children, whatever their age. Decisions should be based on the problem, as well as the age and needs of the child. The Test of Four helps guide parents in decision-making. Questions in the four categories help parents set rules that are healthy for the whole family.
Empowering the child
Invite children aged 6 and over into family decision-making using the Test of Four, whether it's deciding on the amount of time on media screens, what to do on the weekend, or whether to play house league sports vs. traveling sports. The Test of Four is not only a tool for parents, it's a tool to help children learn to make responsible, well-thought-out decisions.
Let's try it
Your child wants a cell phone. Should you buy one for him or her? Knowing how much to buy for your children is not always easy. It's especially hard when the advertising industry spends billions of dollars telling everyone that they can't live without a particular product. And some ads specifically target children
Let's assess the issue using the Test of Four.
- Developmental tasks: Might a phone prevent the child from completing school work, getting enough sleep, or helping with household tasks? Is your child ready to learn to make smart choices about texting, sending pictures, making phone calls, and using the internet?
- Family resources: Would an extra monthly cost of a cell phone strain the family budget? Would it take too much of the parents' time and energy to track proper use of the cell phone to ensure the safety of their child and others with whom they may be communicating? Would replacing a lost, stolen, or broken phone be cost-prohibitive?
- Whose needs? Would having a cell phone benefit the adult more than the child?
- Possible harm: Might your child hurt another child by bullying, sending inappropriate pictures, or texting while driving?
Related resource
Overindulgence.org — Authors and researchers Jean Illsley Clarke, David Bredehoft, and Connie Dawson provide further resources and insight on overindulgence, including the book How Much is Too Much, which builds on their original research to provide parents with the tools they need to put their children on the right track.
Reviewed in 2025